𝘾𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙄𝙨 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙚𝙛 𝙤𝙛 𝙅𝙤𝙮

If you want your JOY to be short-lived keep on comparing your realities to someone's highlights.

If you want your JOY to disappear even faster compare your chapter 2 to someone else's chapter 10.

In case you don't know, every minute you spend wishing you had someone else's life is a minute spent wasting yours.

But if you want something different for your joy to last, come to terms that "Life is a process." 

Embrace that reality wholeheartedly and make it your watchword.

You don't plant apple seeds today and eat of its fruits the next day. It takes time, efforts, pruning, watering and care of the plant before it's ready for consumption.

Similarly, you don't get to chapter 10 in one single leap rather it's a gradual process that takes you from the start to that point.

Understand that no matter what there will always be people who are ahead of you, started before you and privileged than you. 

Admire them but don't compare yourself, rather affirm to yourself that if they could do it or attain such height it is also possible for you too as long as you are putting efforts and playing your part in your own journey.

Are you progressing?

That should be your major concern. And you can know this by comparing where you are now to where you are a day before or a year ago, not by making someone else's your reference point.

It is only in this case you are allowed to compare, and from your reflections you will get to know if you're progressing or underperforming.

If it is the latter then you have to pinpoint where your lapses are and choose to make amend.

Stop letting things deliberately steal your joy and happiness with mindless comparison, maintain your lane, it's the best place to be at each moment in time.

Always know that You Deserve Better! So, stop engaging in things that makes you feel less and unhappy.

©Etumnu Matthew Chidi