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Just a Little Romance


It was on a good Saturday morning. I went to the hospital to take my injection for the day, and also collect the remaining drugs that wasn't in store the previous day.

As soon as I got there, i walked straight to the pharmacy section hoping to meet the pharmacist who attended to me on Friday. But I was shocked beyond words when I met a woman who was ravishing even from afar instead of him.

From the crown of her head to the sole of her feet was stunning. She's a typical example of what beautiful is. I couldn't help but admire all what my eyes could behold. She was breathtaking. The more I looked the faster my heart raced.

I exclaimed, "God really did an exceptional job here when creating her. She's indeed one of a kind."

It happened that she was the one who's to attend to me. I composed myself, greeted her, "Good afternoon ma (I noticed a wedding band on her)." She responded cordially and asked how she could be of assistance to me.

I told her what I came for, then showed her my card and the drug lists. She took it, went to the store, got the drugs and the injections. She gave them to me.
After she attended to me, I couldn't help but to tell her, 'Wow, you look very beautiful.' 
As soon as I let out those words, she smiled from ear to ear. She blushed uncontrollably as if Cinderella saw her Prince charming.
It was evident those words made her felt so elated.
I smiled back.
With a face filled with smiles, she said, "Thank you very much. What's your name?"

I responded, "I'm Chidi, what about you?"
"I'm Mrs Nwosu Amaka. You took me by surprise, but thanks Chidi, this means a lot," she said. 
"You're really taking good care of yourself, keep it up ma. Let me go take my injection. See you some other times," I said.
"Okay Chidi, see you around," she said smiling.

As I took my leave, her eyes were fixated on me smiling as if she wants the conversation not to end.
As I walked out, I kept pondering why is she acting up all like this, could it be she don't get compliments from her husband or what? Because it was obvious her demeanor says it all. 

On a second thought, why wouldn't a man compliment his woman every now and then? Don't they know women love these little things, especially when it comes from someone whom they truly love and cherish? I pondered.

Dear Married men, as a husband, providing money for the home welfare is as important as being romantic to your spouse. 

You see those words you used on her during courtship, continue saying them in marriage. 

Always compliment her new hairdo, her looks, dress, her pedicure, tell her sweet nonsense with all sincerity.
Take her by surprise and call her:
My love,
Sweetheart, 
My sunshine,
My beautiful princess, 
or
My joy...

For my igbo folks:
"Obim,"
"Obidiya,"
"Odim nu Obi,"
"Nnem,"
"Enenebe Jé ólú," 
"Ọma ma asa ahụ."
"Asam"
"Nkem,"
"Achalugom,"
"Udara micham"
"Ogoli dim mma"
"Ugobo Oyibom," Etc...

From time to time drop love notes in her bag or pin it on her mirror where she can see it...expressing what you love and cherish about her. Be creative about it.

Doing these little things will make your relationship never to be loveless. In fact it will spice up your relationship and make what the both of you share better. 

In addition, you can add little touches (hugs, kisses on the forehead, hands, cheeks and lips) too coupled with those words. They (women) love these things a lot, it reassures them of your love towards them. Please do it with sincerity and not with ulterior motive. 

Make out time to spend quality time with your sweetheart. At least twice a month take her out to a beautiful restaurant and eat out, telling her how beautiful she has made your life become since she came into your life. Don't worry about the kids they can stay at Aunts place...or better still plan a weekend getaway with the whole family. 

Spoil your baby girl a little...buy her gifts irrespective of how independent she is. Women loves these things no matter how little the gifts are especially when it's coming from a sincere heart. Your sweetheart deserves all the love you can give. Shower her with it. Out of the blue, send her beautiful texts, recharge cards, money for one needs or the other and tell her I LOVE YOU.

Your romantic side shouldn't stop after kids, keep it flowing and rejuvenating by doing these little things every now and then. It increases the bond the both of you share and waxing it even stronger. 

Please do these for the one you love. Don't let your marriage be just about sleeping and waking up together, raising kids, age and die, biko add romance in the mix and be spontaneous about it, you'll be glad you did. Thank you.

Dear married women, please continue to look good and beautiful. Don't stop taking good care of yourself even after childbirth. We (men) are mostly attracted by what we see... continue to look appealing and attractive to us.
Stop this habit of looking only so gorgeous outside but so tattered and unkept at home. It's a huge turn off I must tell you.
You got a role to play in this romance thing. Also reciprocate too, it boost your man's morale. You and your sweetheart are in this together. Don't shy too much lol, just enjoy the moment. Thank you.

The importance of romance in marriage can never be overemphasized. If the spark in yours has become dim, there's still time to lighting it up once again by doing any of these things I suggested above, it effects on your spouse will be so remarkable. For a person who feels appreciated will always give more than is expected. 

Your marriage can be a bliss; just add a little romance.
😍😍😍
Thank you.

#MattCares 





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